You understand young children to these "abnormal" behavior

In the process of raising children, parents often encounter this or that plagued their own problems, particularly on the expression yourself means children are not yet fully, has a lot of behavior is not at all understand, such as love total demolition thing, repeating a story, which expressed how children's psychological? For readers to call reflects the focus of child behavior problems, we invited analysis of psychological experts to answer. You understanding child care these "anomalous" behavior did by visit expert: famous psychological expert Qu Weijie phone number 1379****596 of readers: I son difference two months on three aged has, this children sometimes quite smart, can sometimes and is stupid,, for example he own was about to shoes de, then you if to uppers he de down, he on will shouted "not such of", and then to shoes wear Shang, then own de down, work does not know turn. Expert analysis: "stupid" is in fact independence of the child began to readers of the initiation of the children are not stupid, but independent consciousness started initiation, it's very important for growing significance. Children eager to finish something, once someone has done for him, would be tantamount to depriving him of a right, the children will be very angry. For two or three children, when independent consciousness begin germination, parents can do three things: 1. when a child is also no independent consciousness, try part independently of room for children, such as helping children wear socks, wearing half leave half for children themselves to pull socks tube, which is conducive to guiding children awareness of independent work. 2. when children want to own complete one thing, when this matter for children, there was no danger, to give children opportunities to independent. 3. If the parents fear their children well independent, when there is a force impulse to help, may wish to transfer your attention, do some other things to. Ms reader of Harbin high: my son was three years old this year, he was a "King of destruction", to buy him a toy car few is good, all are split far fragmented, small alarm clocks, oil pen, a small tape recorder at home were he had removed, say not to listen to. Expert analysis: "breaking" reflect the exploration and construction wishes to children when removing things, was actually a kind of learning. From an adult perspective, he is destroying an article, exploration of the child is actually because of a desire to remove, he yearned to know the "secrets", and re-Assembly after the dismantling process, will also meet the construction of the children. Therefore, parents don't prevent a child from the exploration, the build process. Parents matter: 1. removing things not suitable for children, such as insecurity, expensive things, on children not to touch the place. 2. at the start, give the child some simple can remove things, conducive to child-Assembly, also enhanced confidence. Before poen to propagation, let the child removal. Best thing is the building block of children's demolition, and then to a variety of toys travel models. Cell phone number 132****568 readers: my child 2 years old, she likes a repeat listen to a poem or a story over again, even if the story has four or five times, still heard with interest, is not greasy. Expert analysis: "repeat" can bring confidence to children repeat listening, is simple for adults, for children, is complex. Children's intellectual development, not the accumulation of knowledge in the mind, remember that knowledge itself, but by stimulating, memory to promote the development of the brain. In the process of repeating, every child understanding of things is not the same, such as first time children may only listen to words, second time children start to imagine the picture, the story is repeated, but children feel the intention was not repeated. In addition, the child is listening to the familiar things, foresight will give them confidence and a sense of things. But sometimes excessive duplication may also reflect the child a sense of dependence and insecurity, parents need to think about what emotions the children missing, time is too small, get on well with children if parents are not enough cohesion. Readers of Wuhan Mr LEE: my wife and I attach great importance to cultivating ability of daughter, very small daughter let her own eating, dressing, in order to train her independence only two years, and he sent her to kindergarten, children now has more than 3 years, and sometimes is very sticky people often let me hold her with his wife. Expert analysis: "self-care" and attachment are two different things stick people have two cases: one is the attachment, one is dependent on. Attachment a child closer to parents showed moderate, it is a necessary stage in the development process of children, in the attachment of the child from the parents feel affection, prepubertal normal attachment relationships create an enabling environment for the children of the future establishment of interpersonal relationships, children lack a certain degree of attachment, will have a sense of insecurity, poverty and inferiority inside. Thus, attachment and "themselves" are two different things. Dependent on the child is always pestering parents, afraid of appropriate separation, rely on established not conducive to the child independent consciousness. For such a child, parents should gradually help children pulled each other's distance, such as the original may keep children from morning till night, now has a day time out-do or intend to keep the children separated for a while, gradually reduce the dependency on children. Reporter Li hua original see December 10, 2009 Edition of the family health report "growth education"